A Piece of Public Diary

A Piece of Public Diary

          Gladly, I have a better understanding of “considerate” today.

          It is always a good thing for me to have meal with my friends. Because everyone more or less has something to be busy with, meal time is like the only time we can sit together and share our stories. So it is kind of big deal, at least for me. When my good friends and I had lunch today as usual,something awkward happened. I suddenly found that the friend sitting next to me forgot his jeans zip today while we immersed ourselves in the delight atmosphere. I wanna remind him in case he would get embarrassed this afternoon, but I forgot to do it in a proper way. I just said: “Check your jeans zip, bro.” After zipping his jeans, he unexpectedly became pissed off because I said it so loud that everyone around the table knew his embarrassment. He suddenly stood up and left without a word, leaving me feel guilty and regret. I knew I had made a mistake which definitely hurt my dear friend. I was so sorry for what I rudely did.

          After that, I learned a lesson: if I want to help others, please in a proper way, or I may make the situation worse. I would better think in other’s shoes first before I give other a hand, which I thought it would help other but it turned out not. Being considerate is not to help others with the assumption that it would help, but to really try to feel what he will feel and to care what he will care. It is not unilateral pay, so think in others’ perspective first. That is what I learned from the mistake I made.